You want to hurry up and find the man of your dreams, and get married and have your perfect family with the kids and the house and the two cars and the Golden Retriever and guess what? Life doesn’t always work that way. If you are dating online and trying to force some sort of outcome, you will never find true happiness. Slow down. Take a deep breath, and let your love life evolve organically.

I’m not saying that you can’t give fate a little nudge. That’s why you’re dating online in the first place, isn’t it? You’re looking to meet the right guy for you. But your timetable may be different from his timetable and if he thinks you’re looking at the clock and shopping for wedding dresses on your first date, he will be long gone before you can have the chance to say, “Nice meeting you.” Slow down girls! The only clock that is ticking is the one that’s in your head. Get rid of it. You’ll be much happier when you do.

What is the rush, anyway? Why do you want to be so quick to settle down when 50 percent of the marriages in this country supposedly end in divorce? Enjoy your dating years, and if marriage is the goal, you’ll know when you’ve met the right guy and are ready to join hands in holy matrimony. Remember, the more desperate you are, the more unattractive you look to the opposite sex.

Seriously,Guys can sense when a girl is desperate to get her claws into him. Why do you want to be that girl? If you’re relaxed, enjoying your life, perusing unique interests and a strong career path, he will come to you. Remember that movie “Field of Dreams?” There was a line that said “if you build it, they will come?” Well, it’s very true. If you lay the ground work without being overly pushy; if you are proactive without being desperate, the man of your dreams is bound to show up. I’ve seen this happen over and over with again. I’ve experienced it myself and seen it happen to many of my friends.

Do you want to know the best way to attract someone? Get a life. I know that sounds simple, but it is absolutely true. When you have a life that you are happy with; when you have friends and interesting work and things to do with the time on your hands, you become a more interesting person.

And when you are interesting and happy, people are automatically attracted to you. It works every time. You can’t fake it either. It has to be real. So get rid of the alarm clock! Slow down and enjoy yourself. He will come along and I know it sounds like a cliché, but clichés are true. The man of your dreams will arrive when you least expect it. When you’re busy doing something else that you love, he’ll show up. Just don’t be too busy to miss his entrance!


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