Maybe you’ve been dating online for awhile and you’ve finally met a guy who seems a bit more special than all the rest. You’ve had several dates together and you share good camaraderie and have a genuinely good time when you go out, but something is missing. You obviously know that he is causing your heart to go pitter-pat, but you’re not sure if his heart is feeling the same way.
If you think he might not be into you, ask yourself why he keeps asking you out. Obviously he enjoys your company, so you can rule out the fact that he’s not interested. But maybe your dates feel more platonic than romantic, and each time you’re hoping for things to progress and they don’t. What should you do? Well, you have to take into consideration that not all guys are players, and some men don’t want to make a move because they’re afraid of being knocked down. That’s very understandable, isn’t it? If he’s had a history of putting himself out there to women and constantly getting rejected, it makes perfect sense that this cutie is going to be moving very slow. You may be getting frustrated, but he has no idea how you feel about him.
If this is the case, you need to start putting out major signals, but you need to do it in a very subtle manner. You don’t want to scare him, and you don’t want to come on too strong, because frankly, that’s just plain tacky. See how he reacts to your romantic hints; to your slightly brushing his arm; to your holding his gaze just a little longer than usual. If he seems bothered by these things or embarrassed or worst of all, ambivalent, you may just be looking at your new best friend and not your boyfriend. If he seems to respond, but is still shy and slow to meet your advances, you’re probably going to have to put it out there much more literally.
If you continue to see each other and you’re still pining away for something to happen, you’ll need to tell him how you feel. Yes, you’re setting yourself up to be vulnerable, but if you don’t ask, you don’t get. In these situations, you have to trust your gut. Deep down you know if the guy is interested in you as more than a friend. But if he’s slow to make a move, it’s got to be because he’s afraid of getting rejected. So help him out. You be the one to make the move. But again, don’t be overly aggressive or skanky. Have a little class.
If both of you are too scared to do anything for fear of rejection, then you’ll reach a deadlock and eventually things between you will peter out. Don’t let this happen. You both could be missing out on a wonderful relationship. So be the brave and daring one. Step out on the ledge and see what happens. Hopefully, neither one of you will fall and your relationship will soar.