I have driven away from a good number of girls whom I was attracted to.
So, I decided to throw away my ego and take the time to learn about dating.
Fortunately, I managed to notice most of the mistakes that were holding me back from becoming the attractive guy I could possibly be.
And I have never looked back ever since.
Those are the same mistakes I see so many men making.
So, in this article!
I’m going to share mistakes you can make and push an attractive girl away faster than Usain Bolt at the Olympics.
And chances are, you might be making the same mistakes too.
That’s why you came to this article in the first place.
But, that’s perfectly fine because all of us have ever been there.
I’m going to be explaining in detail the five mistakes you are doing that are making girls run away from you without even realising that you are making them.
Terrible Mistakes You Can Make Today And Push A Girl Away
• Not Taking Risks
• Avoiding strong eye contact
• Not adjusting to the girl’s vibe
• Being unsure of yourself
• Giving your power away
Let’s get right into the details!
Mistake #1. Avoiding strong eye contact
Back in my college days, I made friends with a guy….
let’s call him Frank.
Frank was known as the guy in our group who would always hold strong eye contact.
Frank would always hold strong eye contact with whoever he was talking to.
Girls used to hover around him most of the time.
Whenever I asked the girls why they were always attracted to Frank, they said it was because of the seductive look in his eyes.
At that time, I didn’t take the answer seriously….
Not until I learned the impact of eye contact in seduction.
Strong and seductive eye contact is crucial because;
i) A strong eye contact creates sexual tension.
Sexual tension is a strong feeling and desire to have sex with the opposite sex.
Eye contact creates this tension because 80% of what our bodies take in is through the eyes.
So whenever you are looking deep in the girl’s eyes for a prolonged time, her brain perceives this action to be sexual and intimate.
ii) Maintaining an eye contact while talking to a girl shows that you are a dominant guy.
Ever wondered why your parents used to tell you statements like….
” Look at me when am talking to you”?
It’s because your parent wanted to assert dominance.
Avoiding prolonged eye contact while talking to a girl is a huge turn off because it also shows the girl that what she listening to is not worth her time.
So, you should always maintain eye contact with a girl while talking to her.
Whenever you feel nervous and uncomfortable at the start of the interaction, you can start by looking at her face then at the bridge of her nose and finally make eye contact.
As you begin feeling more and more comfortable, progress to making deep, intense eye contact.
iii) A strong eye contact shows confidence.
There is a reason why people say that your eyes are a window to your soul.
This is because they tell her a lot of things about you to like how confident you are in your self.
We all know about this one person who can’t really look you in the eyes whenever they talk to you and they are always looking away from your gaze.
What do you feel when you notice that?
Probably that he is shy, lacks confidence and feels shame.
Well, the girl feels the same way whenever you keep avoiding her gaze.
So, the girl will feel turned off by this behaviour.
When you can’t hold eye contact with her for some prolonged time, you communicate that you are weak.
You will be showing her that you can’t stand behind the words you are saying because you are intimidated by her.
On the other hand, when you hold strong eye contact, she will pick up that you are comfortable in the presence of a hot woman.
So by maintaining strong eye contact with a girl when you first meet her….
you will immediately separate yourself from 95% of the guys out there who have a hard time holding eye contact with an attractive girl.
Mistake #2. Not taking risks
When interacting with a girl you need to take risks if you want to;
• Create sexual tension thereby increasing your chances of having sex (most especially on your first date)
• Turn a girl into girl your girlfriend
• Increase the chances of going for the second date
• Make the girl more sexually attracted to you because you will be demonstrating masculinity.
• To know whether the girl is actually interested in you or just leading you on to get your attention and validation.
When are you approaching a girl or out on a date with a girl, you need to take risks like;
i) Going for a kiss (i mean during or after your first date not during an approach😂
ii) Touching the girl like
• On her arm
• Placing your hand on her lower back
• Placing your arm around her shoulders
When you meet a girl for the first time, you will also need to touch her so that you phrase your interaction with her as a sexual one from the beginning.
You can simply do this by reaching out for her hand when greeting her and hold it for like 3 or more seconds before releasing it.
iii) Creating an excuse so that you can go back with her to your place or her place after the date (hope you are not asking your self to do what??).
You will have higher chances of her saying yes when you suggest going back to her place because she will feel more secure and comfortable.
Let’s get back to the issue of avoiding risks!
I meet a lot of my coaching clients who fear taking risks while talking to a girl.
An example, one of them, we call him James, is a type of dude who is naturally bold.
He has no problems approaching girls whether in clubs or on the street.
But the problem comes when the girl is beautiful and contributing to the conversation.
He will immediately get hooked and invested in her…..
He will start talking about safe topics like where the girl comes from, what she likes to do for fun and asking other neutral questions.
…..a. k. a, he is not bold and fun like he was at the beginning.
He loses his cool because he doesn’t want to risk offending the girl, looking stupid and ruining the interaction.
And this is painful to see because you can easily see the attraction of leaving the girl’s eyes.
Whenever you feel afraid of taking risks when interacting with a woman, you should never let that fear control you.
There will be moments where you’ll need to risk being rejected to move the interaction forward.
Having the courage to approach a girl who you are sexually attracted to isn’t the end…
you still have to maintain that courage through the interaction.
If you let that fear prevent you from expressing yourself, especially if what you have to say might be a bit risky, she will notice that fear and she may feel turned off.
Mistake #3. Not adjusting to a girl’s vibe.
So many guys when they flirt, they start saying anything to seem talkative and confident to the point where funny and witty quickly becomes weird and creepy and girl is turned off.
This is why you have to pay attention to how a girl is reacting to what you are saying or doing, so you know exactly if it is safe to say an edgy joke or if you should pull back a little and make her feel more comfortable.
When you adjust to her vibe you will be able to read her body language which means you can control the overall vibe of the interaction.
Most guys put all their attention on her and end up ignoring all the other signals she is sending with her behaviour which can be completely the opposite of her words.
For example, assuming you ask if the girl wants to hang out with you, there is a huge difference between her saying ok and oooookk.
In the latter case, it implies that the girl is not interested in hanging out with you.
You see, girls are taught from a young age to be polite and nice even when it can be inconvenient.
Sometimes, girls will talk to you a lot longer than they would want to because they can’t find a socially acceptable way to leave and they don’t want to look rude.
This is why adjusting to her vibe is so important so you know whether she is having fun talking to you or not.
So the next time you find yourself flirting with a girl, notice how she is reacting.
Is she keeping all her attention focused on you or she is avoiding eye contact?
When you place your arm around her shoulders, does she tense up or does she relax into you?
If you notice all these signs, you can adjust accordingly to avoid being creepy.
If not, you might cross the line without realising it and she will be turned off.
Let’s say the girl feels uncomfortable when you place your hand around her waist during the date, for example,…..
Instead of keeping your hand wrapped around her waist, you will need to withdraw a bit until she starts to feel more comfortable.
Mistake #4. Being unsure of yourself
Now, this is something that I used to struggle with.
One time, I went on a date with a girl but I became so nervous because she was my ideal type.
She had an adorable personality, cute eyes and smile. So I wanted her to be my girlfriend.
I became so nervous to a point where whenever I made a joke and she didn’t laugh, I would make a mental note of it.
So I stopped making any more jokes altogether.
In reality, I just didn’t make a decision and stick to it.
I wasn’t sure of myself.
I wasn’t even sure and confident about my jokes.
At one moment, I tried to go for a kiss but hesitated and waited for the perfect moment. I ended up not going for it.
The sad thing is, this girl actually asked me why I didn’t try to kiss her. But this was months later when she had moved on.
She told me that she would have been ok with it.
Imagine how embarrassed I felt then!
This shows the importance of being 100% committed to your actions.
So the next time you are going to do something like asking a girl out, kissing a girl, asking a girl back to your place, do it 100% and don’t hold back.
Girls like guys who are sure of themselves because it shows confidence and leadership.
Now you should be adjusting to her vibe to see if she is visibly bothered.
But unless you can see from her body language that she is offended, own everything you say you will do even if it might not seem that you are cool.
Never try to wait for the perfect moment, to take action.
Decide what you are going to do and go for it.
Now let me remind you this…..
even if she doesn’t accept your advances, she will at least respect you for going after what you want which might be easier for you the next time you try again.
On the other hand, if you are always second-guessing your self, girls will easily pick up on this and it will turn them off.
Back to the example, I gave, the girl turned me down when I asked her out for a second date.
Girls resent any sort of indecisiveness.
So while interacting with a girl like out on a date and during an approach, do what comes naturally to you and never second guess your actions.
Mistake #5. Giving away your masculine power.
This is basically when you start letting a girl boss you around.
Guys give away there power thinking that it will make the girl happy and make her like them but this will just instead push the girl away.
And we all know of guys who act tough around their friends and never take shit from anyone.
But if you put such a guy next to a cute girl, he goes from a tiger to a pussycat.
All of a sudden he starts agreeing with whatever a girl says and starts being super polite and friendly.
It confuses how a tough dude is so scared of girls that he starts acting like a scared little child whenever he is next to a girl.
If you give a girl your power, and can’t stand up for yourself with her, it will turn her off in no time because women are attracted to powerful guys and powerful guys never give away their power.
There are few ways on how to retain your power;
i) Not backing down whenever a beautiful girl challenges you.
Girls do this to test your masculinity and most of the time, girls do it even without even realizing it.
Girls have feminine energy which is attracted to masculine energy.
For example, a girl will try to disagree with what you are saying or refuse to follow your lead to see whether you would stand your ground.
Because most guys are always eager to please and impress beautiful girls, they always go with whatever the girl says and wants, aka they follow the girl’s lead.
This causes any attraction a girl has started to feel for a guy to die.
You become like all the other 99% of the guys who went with whatever the girl said to get into her pants.
ii) Learn to say no to a girl. Never let her make you do something that you do not want to do.
Never tolerate bad behaviours from girls, as you would never tolerate shit from any other person.
You should know as a man that any beautiful woman will always challenge your power to make sure that you are mentally strong enough.
When you are always eager to please a girl by doing whatever she asks you to do even when it is inconvenient to you….
you will turn into a pushover in no time. And girls are not attracted to guys they can walk all over.
If you give your power away she will immediately know that you are emotionally weak. She will be turned off and eventually break up with you.
So when you follow and put into action the above information, you will separate yourself from most guys out there.
Your success at attracting girls will be more about avoiding mistakes that are holding you back.
So, bro, that is it!
Those were the 5 Terrible Dating Mistakes You Can Make Today And Push Girls Away
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