Are You In A Relationship For The Right Reasons?
If you want to have a happy, satisfying and functional relationship, then you need to look out for specific qualities in a girl besides the girl being beautiful/hot.
Unfortunately, so many guys do not look out for qualities that make a good partner.
So they end up in the wrong relationships with completely the wrong people.
Potential qualities to look out for in a woman include;
• Monogamous/ Not promiscuous
• Physically attractive or gorgeous
• Highly attracted to you
• Loyal to you
• Emotionally stable/ Not a drama queen
• Independent and has a career
Most men end up in unsatisfying relationships because they get girlfriends for completely the wrong reasons.
You Should Not Get A Girlfriend Because Of The Following Reasons
• To please the parents
• To fit in society or for social proof
• Need for attention from a girl because you are lonely and you need someone around.
• Need to have regular sex.
• Pressure from the woman for commitment.
The Right Reasons Why You Should Get Into A Relationship
• The woman has the qualities that you need in a girlfriend.
• You have found the woman who supports your dreams.
• You want to have kids and start a family.
• You have found your purpose in life so you need to settle down
You want to choose a woman who you can be happy for so many years and with whom you can build a satisfying relationship.
You don’t have to stay with someone if the relationship is not giving what you want.
You want to build a relationship for both of you.
And so, that’s what this article is about.
There are things that you can look for in a girl, that give you a good chance of building a satisfying long term relationship.
You need to look for long term qualities whenever you go out on a date with a woman if you want to stay in a long term relationship with her.
Unfortunately, most guys rely only on superficial qualities like a woman’s looks when trying to choose a partner.
To have a satisfying relationship, you need to learn on how to look for certain qualities in a girl because our bodies naturally drive us to look for qualities in girls like nice boobs, nice butt, big hips among others that indicate reproductive health.
Our bodies drive us to look for women who can successfully give birth to our children.
However, having a girl who can give birth doesn’t necessarily lead to a satisfying relationship.
You can have a shitty relationship but still, be able to have children.
So when it comes to looking for a potential partner, following your manly instincts will always lead to a bad relationship.
Building a satisfying relationship is something that doesn’t come naturally to the majority of us. It is something that has to be learnt.
When trying to make a girl become a girlfriend, do not try to change her so that she can fit the qualities that you want in a woman.
If she doesn’t show them, then you must look for these qualities in other women.
So What Are Qualities Of A Good Girlfriend?
1. She Has To Be Beautiful/hot:
Never be ashamed of going after girls who you find physically attractive.
This is something a lot of guys struggle with.
Be true to your emotions.
And you should also let girls who you physically attractive know, straight up.
A lot of women love it and I have had many chase me because I let them know that I find them attractive.
Why did they chase me?
A lot of guys never do it.
It also shows the girl that you are a confident guy who knows and, goes after what he wants.
A lot of guys are nice guys who think that being straight about your sexual interest in a woman is not cool.
When most guys are interested in a girl, what do they do?
They beat around the bush by trying to be friends with the girl.
This puts the guy in a position that I do not want to find any bro of mine in.
It is called the dreaded friendzone.
However, while showing your desire in a woman, it shouldn’t be something so direct like “I love you” or complimenting her looks by saying anything like “you have cute eyes”.
You can DM her, for example, if it is a girl in your social circle, something like “hey, you looked hot/amazing in that short dress/skirt you were putting on yesterday”
Many girls will respond positively to this because very few guys do it.
As I said, so many guys fear to express their sexual interest in women for fear of being socially awkward and rejection.
So when you go ahead and do it, you will have separated your self from 95% of the guys out there.
Because you are simply following your masculine primal instincts.
When a woman is physically attractive, on the primal level, it means that the woman can easily give birth to healthy children.
However, what men find physically attractive in women tends to vary among individuals, so it’s only you who can determine which group of women you find physically appealing.
When it comes to physical attractiveness in women, there is no standard of beauty.
What is trying to point out is that you should not settle for a particular type of woman just because of what society considers as beautiful or hot.
But you should also not choose a woman to become your girlfriend or wife solely because of her looks.
This is a dating mistake I see a lot of guys make.
These guys end up in relationships with beautiful women but with messed up traits like being so dramatic, dishonest and argumentative.
2. Highly Attracted To You.
If a woman is highly attracted to you, it increases the chances of you having a satisfying relationship.
While still dating or already in a relationship you have to always look out for the signals and levels of a woman’s interest in you.
When a girl is highly interested in you, it helps you to maintain a higher power in your relationship.
The woman will always submissive to you and she will readily support your goals.
A lot of guys make a huge mistake of moving into relationships where they more attracted to a woman than a woman is in them.
The problem of this is that such men tend to pedestal these women, they give the women too much value.
This causes women to lose respect and attraction for their men with time.
This causes a relationship to eventually break or the man continues to stay in the unsatisfying relationship (because the guy will have over-invested in the woman).
The main cause of this is the lack of an abundance mentality.
Never make yourself think that you can’t easily find beautiful women or even get them attracted to you.
Never get so invested in a girl who is less attracted to you.
It is a very weak position that you don’t want to find yourself in.
Don’t be fooled by your emotions because she is hot. Find a girl who is highly attracted to you.
You need a woman who is loyal to have a satisfying and happy relationship.
You are much likely to stay in a happy and comfortable long term relationship with a loyal woman.
You want to find a woman who is not only interested in ,yourbut also loyal to you.
This may require you to take some quality time with a girl before committing to figure out her loyalty and some other qualities.
So it is always better not to rush into a committed relationship with a woman until you have seen her for at least 6 months. And more is better.
This will help you figure out some traits like loyalty about her. You can find out about her loyalty by looking at her past relationships.
You should ask yourself questions like did she cheat on her exes or was she always had relationships with married men.
You can also determine a woman’s loyalty depending on the number of past relationships they have heard in the past.
If you are pursuing a woman with a lot of past short term relationships, this is a huge red flag.
When a woman you are dating shows a pattern of disloyalty, it is to your advantage ending such a relationship.
Do not let your emotions cloud your judgement by thinking that “oohh she will change” or “maybe there was a problem with her exes” or “am a nice and loving guy, so she will never cheat on me”.
Such women have underlying emotional issues which are hard to deal with.
4. Emotionally Stable or Not Too Dramatic.
Emotional stability means expressing emotions that are relevant to a particular situation.
You need to look out on how she responds to frustrations.
Most women have some sort of drama, but you should always avoid those who are too dramatic.
Women who are so dramatic lack self-esteem.
Emotionally stable women will not bring you negative energy in a relationship.
5. Submissive Or Willing To Follow Your Lead.
You always need a woman who is not going to be stubborn and not willing to follow your lead.
If a woman is submissive, she will always be happy to support your goals and mission in life.
6. She Should Be Independent.
You don’t want a woman who is always desperate for your attention.
You want a woman who will be able to take responsibility for her happiness and life.
Self-sufficient women will always choose you because they truly love you not because of your money or the support you provide to her financially.
She chooses you because she wants you not because she needs you.
Her love is unconditional. You want a woman who will be an asset to you, not a liability.
7. Low Promiscuity.
I know it is kinda hard to find a virgin girl these days, but you also do not want to commit to a girl who has slept with a dozen men.
You can tell the promiscuity of a woman by looking at the number of dates you had gone to before she was willing to have sex with you.
If the girl was very willing to have sex with you on your first date, then chances are she is very promiscuous.
You can also use your instincts on this. But like I said you need to have spent some amount of time with the woman before committing to find out this one.
Never get into any relationship because of infatuation.
You need to get into a relationship with a woman with the right qualities. If you want to have a satisfying relationship.
A lot of men ignore those qualities especially when a girl is beautiful but in the end, the relationships always fail to work out.
And a relationship should be something you want not something you need.
Above all, you need to have spent some time with the woman before committing into a relationship. At least six months. And more will always be better.