5 Ways To Be Mysterious-Why Lack Of Mystery Is A Dating Mistake

Not being mysterious kills attraction, because you are being predictable and boring.

It’s like being told everything about a movie you are about to watch.

I remember in my early days when I had just started dating……

whenever I would meet a girl whom I found super attractive and when we were hanging out or talking on the phone.

I always found my self opening up and telling her so much about my self.

At first, the girls seemed to like it, but they soon got bored and any little attraction they had in me phased.

I realised later that I was always giving out too much information to the girls I was dating.

It is always tempting to open up when you first meet a woman.

But you will always lose the woman’s attraction in the long run.

You should always use the element of mystery to your advantage when dating.

What I learnt from my dating mistakes is, you should always avoid over communicating via messages or phone with a girl you have just started dating.

You risk giving out too much information too soon about yourself.

It also makes you too available and not a challenge….

so you end up killing the woman’s attraction she had started to feel for you.

And remember, women, love men who they have to work hard for and men who are not too responsive.

You want to see yourself when dating a woman, like a movie.

So, think of a woman getting to know you or date you just kind of like a movie.

If she gets to know everything about the movie at the start, she is going to get bored and walk away from the movie.

When you are mysterious with women you meet, there sexual attraction for you will increase because;

• They will see you as a high-value guy because most men open up and brag to impress the woman and you will be doing the opposite.

• They will see you as a challenge because you won’t be readily available to tell them a lot about yourself.

• They will start to chase you because they would want to find out more about you and will always be wondering about you.

• You are unpredictable and exciting.

• You will look confident

When You Are Mysterious, You Will Grab A Girl’s Attention

Two women checking out an attractive man

Because she will be thinking about you most of the time….

Grabbing a girl’s attention is key in dating because hot girls always have a lot of guys trying to get her into a relationship.

So when you become mysterious, you set yourself apart.

When an average guy goes on a date with a hot girl, he acts as if he is on a job interview.

He talks everything about himself like what he does for a living, he talks about his exes, his goals in life and all the cool things he has.

Am not saying that you should not tell the girl anything about yourself, but what I mean is that you need to hint about a few things about your self.

So that it gets the girl to become curious and always thinking about you.

And if you get the girl thinking about you, it means you can always have her attention.

However, you should note that if you become mysterious on a date and the woman seems not to be curious about you or is not interested in knowing more about you, then it means she is simply not interested in you.

Maybe she was hanging out with you because of the free food or she was bored on that Friday night.

The reason why it may be hard to be mysterious during the early stages of dating is that a girl may become frustrated.

She may become frustrated simply because you are not chasing and trying to impress her as most guys do.

But her frustration in the initial stages of dating is a good thing and you should not be afraid of it.

It’s good because the girl is going to be more sexually attracted to you since you will be triggering an emotional response in her and it also means that she will always be thinking about you.

How To Be Mysterious With Girls You Are Dating

So that you have her thinking about you sexually in her head……

1. Let the woman do most of the talking.

Women love talking especially on emotional topics

So when talking during the date or when chatting on the phone, you should always let the girl do a larger percentage of the talking.

You should let her do at least 70% of the talking.

This is so important because;

• It makes you a good listener. Girls love guys who can listen to them.

• It helps you to create an emotional connection with the girl. This is because you are getting her to share a lot about herself with you.

• It helps you not to share a lot about yourself too soon.

One way of letting her do most of the talking is by asking her open-ended questions (questions that do not require a yes or no or that do not require short responses) and avoid transactional questions like “where do you stay?” or “what college did you go to?”, or “where do you work?”.

For example, if you met the girl at a concert, you can ask her a question like “what was your coolest part of the concert and why?”.

This will cause the girl to describe her emotions in detail. You may also come in and share in the conversation about your coolest part of the concert.

This way, you will be able to build an emotional connection with a girl which will increase the chances of you hooking up with the girl.

So always let the girl talk more than you by always sticking with open-ended questions.

The open-ended questions will also help you keep your interactions with a girl fun, exciting and comfortable.

2. Guess the answer to the question you want to ask.

Instead of asking her a direct question, you can just try to guess the answer to the question you want to ask.

For example, if you are approaching a girl in college instead of asking her ” “In which year are you?”, you can simply say “you are in year three, right!”.

If you guess it right, she would want to know how you came to know…

And if you guess it wrong, she would want to know why you thought that about her.

So you are being mysterious and fun in both scenarios other than asking her “In which year are you?” which is boring and predictable.

3. Communicate less through texts or phone chats.

A woman texting a man she likes

So many guys over text girls too much. You need to know the dos and don’ts when it comes to texting in dating. Texting is simply a tool to set updates.

When you message or talk on the phone too much, you risk revealing a lot about yourself.

Remember, a girl would want to hang out with you because she wants to know more about you.

So, if you reveal everything about your self before going to the date, then it means there is no reason for her meeting up with you.

And it’s through meeting up with a girl, where you will be able to build an intimate connection that would make the girl want to hook up with you.

It also kills the anticipation that girl may be having before you to meet up on the date.

You want to let her wonder and think about you before you hang out.

Remember, attraction and love build in space.

When you have a woman always thinking about you, that’s how she develops a love for you.

Besides, you can’t create an intimate connection with a woman on the phone or through text.

4. Reveal things about you over time.

When I talk about being mysterious, I do not mean that you shouldn’t reveal anything about yourself to her.

You have to reveal a few things to create anticipation so that she would want to find out more about you.

This will also make the girl want to keep going out with you several times so that she can know more about you.

I see guys who always complain about girls who refuse to go out with them for a second date.

This is because the guy revealed almost everything about himself on the first date.

So the urgency for another date was killed. You must create opportunities for a girl to think about you.

How can you reveal things about you over time?

• Never tell her about any deep information about yourself like your passions in life or what you do for a living, without her asking.

What if she asks you a for deep information like “What do you do for a living?”.

You need to go around such a question.

You want to first give her a silly answer like “ooh, I am the president/prime minister of this country” (assuming the person reading my article is not a president hahaha)

then she would be like “ha ha ha”.

Then you can ask her back…

“what do you do for a living?”…

If she persists then you can tell her your real profession/job.

This way she will also see you as confident, exciting, fun and unpredictable. All qualities that increase a woman’s attraction.

• You can keep your answers general so that she can dig for the details and specifics herself.

So many guys make a huge mistake of bragging and telling a girl a lot about themselves when a girl asks them a question about their jobs/profession/sources of income.

If you brag to a girl by talking about how much money you make at your job or your other smarts.

This kills the girl’s attraction faster than a speeding bullet. It shows that her value is higher than yours because you are trying to impress her.

If you were a guy of high value, she would be the one trying to impress you.

If you have a cool car and house, for example, you can go to your first date and then you can reveal your awesome car when you going out for your second date.

And reveal your cool house when you invite her back to your place.

When you do this, her attraction in you will increase because you decided not to brag about your cool life.

By the time you date a hot woman, she will have met a lot of guys who wanted to get into her pants by bragging, showing off and buying her expensive things.

So when you brag, she sees it as a red flag and her guards automatically go up.

5. Develop a smirk.

A mysterious smirk

Putting on a smirk means you smile with your eyes without opening your mouth and showing your teeth.

You can also check out for George Clooney and Brad Pitt photos on how a smirk looks like.

You should practice in the mirror so that you come up with something that feels natural to you.

This way, when you look directly in the eyes of a hot girl with a smirk on your face, she will be kinda confused. She will ask herself “is this guy interested in me ( because you are making eye contact) or not? (because you ain’t saying nothing)”.

I have had so many of my coworkers start to chase me ever since I introduced the smirk into my dating arsenal.

When you make eye contact with a smirk, you will be applying two of the top qualities in you that make women find men sexually attractive…..

That is Confidence and mystery.

Always make eye contact with a smirk with the opposite sex, and you will thank me later.

So in conclusion…

So whenever you meet a woman who you want to attract and hook up with or become your girlfriend or become your wife, you should avoid being predictable and boring.

Don’t reveal too much too soon. You do not need to prove to the girl that you are a perfect match for her by talking too much about yourself. You will just instead push the girl away.

You can only prove to her that you are good for her by being mysterious and letting her find the most of awesome and cool things about you indirectly by herself not by you verbally talking about them or trying hard to show how cool you are.

If you do not be mysterious and reveal most the cool things about you at once, the girl may seem to like you at first but she is going to lose interest in the long run.

Because you will look predictable and boring.

Most of us have ever been there. We pushed away girls who would make awesome girlfriends without even realising it.

We gave away too much info about ourselves too soon.

So do not make the same mistake.

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How Can You Be Mysterious With Girls

1. Let the girl do most of the talking.

2. Guess the answer to some questions you want to ask.

3. Communicate less through calls and texts.

4. Reveal things about you over time.

5. Develop a smirk.

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