11 Simple Tips to Make A Woman Emotionally Attached To You

When a woman is emotionally attached to you, she will always think about you. When a woman is always thinking about you, she will crave you (like chocolate:-). She will always be attracted to you. She will easily hook up with you.

However, even though you want her to have some emotional attachment to you for a variety of reasons, you do not want her to be too emotionally attached to you. If she gets too emotionally attached, it may make your relationship with her toxic and unhappy.

She may have unhealthy feelings of jealousy, and neediness for your attention and validation. The following suggestions I am giving you will make sure that she doesn’t get too emotionally attached.

How to make a woman emotionally attached to you?


1. Give her space – to miss you.

You have to be willing to spend less time with her by communicating with her less often. For her to become emotionally attached to you, she needs constantly be thinking and wondering about you. This builds intrigue that makes her emotionally attached to you.

Many guys make the mistake of spending too much time with girls they like, however, this quickly makes her lose attraction. She’ll never have time to miss you if you’re spending too much time with her.

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Instead, here’s what you can do to give her space:

  • Limit how many times you call and text her.
  • Don’t hang out with her too much.
  • Have passions and hobbies that pull you away.
  • Delay your response to her messages and phone calls.
  • Not being available for dates if you are busy.

2. Playfully tease her.

When you tease a woman by sending mixed signals, you will be evoking various emotions and feelings in her. You can playfully tease her, for example, about her mannerisms, giving her nicknames, misinterpreting her statements, etc. She will always feel relaxed, and fun because she is around a light-hearted guy.

3. Encourage her to chase you.

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You should always encourage her to chase you if you want her to become emotionally attached. You can encourage her to chase you by:

  • Leaving your conversations on a high note.
  • Letting her reach out to you first.
  • Letting her do good things for you.

When you allow her to chase you she will be investing in you emotionally which will get her emotionally attached to you.

4. Reward her when she chases you.

You should never act disinterested if she starts chasing you. If you act disinterested, she will quickly be discouraged and lose interest. Here’s How can you reward her when she is chasing you:

  • Appreciate the good things she does for you.
  • Buy her things she likes
  • Make her feel special

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5. Never chase her.

If you want her to get emotionally attached to you, never chase her. If you start chasing her, you will be showing neediness and low value. This will make her lose attraction to you. 

6. Never judge her.

When a girl feels like you are being judgemental towards her, she won’t feel safe engaging in an emotional conversation. She won’t feel safe sharing her experiences for fear of being judged.

When a girl shares an experience where she felt certain emotions, never say statements like “Why did you do that?” or “What the hell were you thinking?” or “Are you out of your mind?”.

You should listen to her without being judgemental.

You should instead ask open-ended questions like “What happened next?” or “Tell me more” or “What did you do?”.

7. Touch her gently.

When you touch her, you entice certain emotions and feelings. Emotions are highly contagious. When you feel happy and excited, share the feelings by touching her in ways she will remember. Here is how to touch her to make her feel affectionate:

  • Kissing her hand/forehead/cheek
  • Hugging her
  • Putting your arm around her 
  • Holding her hand
  • Touching her cheek

8. Engage in emotionally relevant conversations with her.

Engaging in emotionally relevant conversations will help you create an emotional connection with her. One way of engaging in emotionally relevant conversations is by asking questions that warrant her to describe her emotions and feelings.

You should never ask transactional questions that require her to respond with short and factual answers. You should also never use frequent roadblock phrases in your conversations. Doing so makes your conversations boring and predictable

Here is an example of engaging in emotionally relevant conversations with women.

Assuming she tells you that she went to a music festival. You should never ask her transactional questions like “Where was that festival?” or “When was that?”.

Another thing you should never do is respond with a roadblock phrase like “That’s cool” or “That’s awesome”. All those statements never appeal to her’s emotions. They make your conversations boring.

So how should respond in such a situation?

You should ask her an open-ended question or make any statement that warrants her to describe the emotions and feelings she felt during the festival.

You can respond with something like ”Nice! What was your favorite part of the festival..” or “What was the most exciting thing about the festival?”

You may also relate to her feelings by sharing any experience where you felt the same emotions. When she makes a statement or tells you a story you need to look for the underlying emotions and feelings.

For example, when she tells a story where she felt sad, you may also tell her an experience where you felt sad. When she shares an experience that made her feel embarrassed, you can also tell her a moment when you felt embarrassed.

Try to avoid logical conversations

Have emotional conversational topics rather than logical topics because most girls find logical topics boring. Instead, talk about media topics such as:

  • Celebrity gossip.
  • Pop culture.
  • Food and cooking.
  • Decoration.
  • Music.
  • Fashion
  • Soaps.
  • Vacations.
  • Travel
  • Hobbies
  • TV shows.
  • Childhood memories.
  • Generally, you can talk about any industry that you think is dominated by women.

Highly logical and heavy topics that tend to be boring to girls.

  • Business.
  • Sports.
  • Politics.
  • Religion.
  • Science.
  • Software.

8. Have good sex.

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Sex is a stronger bonding experience for women than for guys. If you want her to keep her emotionally attached to you, then you need to give her amazing sex or at least have sex with her if you haven’t already.

Scientific research has shown that when people have sex, oxytocin hormone (bonding hormone) is released. Oxytocin helps to create an emotional bond between the two individuals who have had sex. Another interesting fact about this research was that more oxytocin is released when a woman orgasms.

So the more orgasms she gets, the more oxytocin is released in her body. Therefore, the higher the chances of getting her emotionally attached to you. So you may need to get good at having sex.

9. Make her laugh.

When you make her laugh, she will feel a lot more comfortable around you. She will also want to spend more time with you. Laughter creates a strong bonding experience in girls. So you need to develop a good sense of humor.

Every person has an inner sense of humor that is just waiting to be expressed. People who seem to be humorous have found a way of bringing out their inner sense of humor. Developing a good sense of humor is easy. You do not need to be a comedian to have a sense of humor. All you need to do is this:

  • Stop taking yourself and life in general too seriously
  • Stop filtering yourself and your words while chatting with girls or with a group of buddies. You have to let your words flow.
  • This is by far the best way how I developed my sense of humor despite being an introvert.
  • Watch stand-up comedians and comedy films.
  • Listen and learn from humorous individuals

You can directly use many of their funny lines and/or manipulate them to come up with your own. It just takes practice.

10. Never try to impress her.

This is by far the number one reason why so many guys fail to get girls emotionally attached to them. They engage in all sorts of logical conversations trying to impress her by bragging and trying to put fellow guys down. When you try to impress her, it shows that her value is higher than yours. If she thinks that you are putting her on a pedestal and trying to impress her, she will lose attraction to you.

11. Let the girl fully express her emotions during the conversations.

Many people are guilty of not letting the other person express their emotions fully because their emotional levels do not much. When a girl tells you about an exciting experience, you should let her laugh to the fullest. When she tells you about a sad experience whilst crying, do not stop her by trying to change the topic.

For example, look at what Oprah Winfrey does with her guests. When a guest cries, she never stops them from crying, she lets them cry. Perhaps, this could be one of the many reasons why she is among the best emotional connectors of all time.

Final Thoughts

If you want to get her emotionally attached to you, always appeal to her emotions and feelings. If you don’t, she won’t even think about you after you leave her sight. Many guys make the mistake of always appealing to her logic. Because we are very logical and rational, we think that it is the same thing with women.

They try to convince her to like them, love them, think about them, become attracted to them, and be their girlfriend using reasoning and logic. Depending on how you made her feel, she will miss you, think about you, become attracted to you, and may want to become your girlfriend 

I hope this article has helped you learn how to effectively get her into a relationship.