When you get a girl emotionally attached to you, she will always be thinking about you.
And when a girl is always thinking about you, she will love you more.
She will always be attracted to you. She will easily hook up with you.
However, even though you want a girl to have some emotional attachment to you for a variety of reasons, you do not want her to be too emotionally attached to you.
If she gets too emotionally attached, it may make your relationship with her toxic and unhappy.
She may have unhealthy feelings of jealousy, neediness for your attention and validation.
The following suggestions I am giving you will make sure that she doesn’t get too emotionally attached.
How do you get a girl emotionally attached to you?
#1. Give her space – to miss you.
You have to be willing to spend less time with the girl. Reach out to her less often from time to time.
You must realise that for her to be emotionally attached to you, the girl needs to be thinking and wondering about you.
This builds intrigue that makes the girl emotionally attached to you.
Many guys make the mistake of spending a lot of time with girls they like. This makes the girl lose attraction to the guy.
So when you spend a lot of time with your girl, she will never have time to miss you.
How can you give a girl space and make her miss you
- Don’t call her all the time.
- Never texting her every day and all day.
- Don’t hang out with her all the time.
- Have passions and hobbies that pull you away from her.
- Not jumping to return her messages and phone calls so quickly.
- Not being available for dates if you are busy.
#2. Encourage the girl to chase you.
You should always encourage the girl to chase you if you want her to get emotionally attached to you.
You can encourage a girl to chase you by;
- Leaving your conversations on a high note.
- Letting the girl reach out to you first.
- Letting the girl do good things for you.
When a girl chases you she will be investing in you emotionally which will get her emotionally attached to you.
#3. Reward her when she chases you.
You should never act disinterested if a girl starts to chase. If you act disinterested, she will lose interest.
She will feel discouraged and give up. And if a girl loses interest in you or gives up on you, she will never get emotionally attached to you.
How can you reward a girl when she chases you?
- Appreciate the good things she does for you.
- Call back when you miss her call.
- Text back when she texts you.
#4. Never chase her.
If you want a girl to get emotionally attached to you, never chase her.
If you start chasing her, you will be showing neediness and low value. This will make the girl lose attraction to you.
A girl can’t lose attraction for you and, at the same time, become emotionally attached to you.
#5. Engage in emotionally relevant conversations with the girl.
Engaging in emotionally relevant conversations with a girl will help you to build create an emotional connection with her.
The will make the girl emotionally attached to you after you have built an emotional bond with her.
One way of engaging in emotionally relevant conversations is by asking a girl questions that warrant the girl to describe her emotions and feelings.
At the same time, you should never ask a girl transactional questions that require her to respond with short and factual answers.
You should also never use a lot of roadblock phrases in your conversations with girls.
Roadblock phrases and transactional questions kill the natural flow of conversations, make your conversations boring and predictable.
A girl will rarely get emotionally attached to you if you are boring and predictable.
If your conversations with a girl are predictable and boring you will never appeal to her emotions.
Your chances of getting a girl emotionally attached to you are slim if you do not appeal to a girl’s emotions.
An example of engaging in emotionally relevant conversations with girls.
Assuming a girl tells you that she went to a music festival.
You should never ask the girl transactional questions like “where was that festival?” or “when was that?”.
Another thing you should never do is to respond with a roadblock phrase like “that’s cool” or “that’s awesome”.
All those statements never appeal to a girl’s emotions. They make your conversations boring.
So how should respond in such a situation?
You should ask the girl an open-ended question or make any statement that warrants her to describe the emotions and feelings she felt during the festival.
You can respond with something like ” it seems the festival was super fun, please tell me more!” or “what was the most awesome thing about the festival”?
You may also come in and relate to her feelings by sharing a little about any experience where you felt the same emotions.
If you relate to her emotions and feelings, it will help you to build an emotional connection with the girl.
Generally, if you want to build an emotional connection that will get the girl emotionally attached to you when a girl makes a statement or tells you a story you need to look for the underlying emotions and feelings.
You can look out for situations where the girl felt angry, disappointed, happy, excited, embarrassed and sad.
Then relate to those emotions and feelings by sharing an experience where you felt the same emotions.
For example, when she tells a story where she felt sad, you may also tell her an experience where you felt sad.
When she shares an experience that made her feel embarrassed, you can also tell her a moment where you felt embarrassed.
As I said, you can get the girl emotionally attached to you if you appeal to her emotions.
So another way of appealing to a girl’s emotions is by avoiding logical conversations with her.
You should instead gravitate towards conversations that are about emotional topics.
You have to avoid logical topics. Most girls find logical topics boring.
Though we find logical topics to be exciting and fun to talk about, you should never assume that even girls do so.
Girls love to talk about topics that are not too logical. They find them interesting and exciting.
So here are some of the topics you should include in your conversations with a girl if you want to get her emotionally attached to you.
• Celebrity gossip.
• Pop culture.
• Food and cooking.
• TV shows.
• Childhood memories.
• Generally you can talk about any industry that you think is dominated by women.
Highly logical and heavy topics that tend to be boring to girls.
#6. Have good sex.
Sex is a stronger bonding experience for girls than for guys.
If you want a girl to get emotionally attached to you, then you need to give her amazing sex or at least have sex with her if you haven’t already.
Scientific research has shown that when people have sex, oxytocin hormone is released.
Oxytocin is also referred to as a bonding hormone.
Oxytocin helps to create an emotional bond between the two individuals who have had sex.
Oxytocin is the very hormone released when a woman is breastfeeding. This is what makes mothers get emotionally attached to their babies and children.
The one exciting and interesting thing about oxytocin and sex is this…
Oxytocin is released in larger amounts in female humans than males.
That means – after having sex – a girl will be more emotionally attached to you than the reverse.
Another interesting thing about this research was that more oxytocin is released when a woman org@sims.
So the more org@sms a girl gets, the more oxytocin is released in her body.
Therefore, the higher the chances of getting the girl emotionally attached to you.
So you may need to get good at having sex.
#7. Make her laugh.
When you make a girl laugh, she will feel comfortable around you.
She will want to spend a lot of time with you. Laughter creates a strong bonding experience in girls.
So you need to develop a good sense of humour.
Every person has an inner sense of humour that is just waiting to be expressed.
People who seem to be humorous have found a way of bringing out their inner sense of humour.
Developing a good sense of humour is easy. You do not need to be a comedian to have a sense of humour. All you need to do is;
• Stop taking yourself and life in general too seriously
• Stop filtering yourself and your words while chatting with girls or with a group of buddies. You have to let your words flow.
This is by far the best way how I developed my sense of humour despite being an introvert.
• Watch a lot of stand up comedians and funny movies.
You can directly use many of their funny lines and/or manipulate them to come up with your own.
It just takes practice.
#8. Never try to impress the girl.
This is by far the number one reason why so many guys fail to get girls emotionally attached to them.
They engage in all sorts of logical conversations trying to impress a girl by bragging and trying to put fellow guys down.
When you try to impress a girl, it shows that her value is higher than yours.
A girl will become emotionally attached to you only if she thinks she has the same value as you.
If she thinks that you are putting her on a pedestal and trying to impress her, she will lose attraction to you.
As I said, a girl will never get emotionally attached to you and, at the same time, have no attraction to you.
If you want to get a girl emotionally attached to you, always appeal to her emotions and feelings.
If you do not appeal to a girl’s feelings and emotions, she won’t be even thinking about you after you leave her sight.
Many guys make the mistake of always appealing to a girl’s logic.
Because we are very logical and rational, many guys think that it is the same thing with girls.
They try to convince a girl to like them, love them, think about them, become attracted to them and be their girlfriend using reasoning and logic.
A girl will miss you, keep thinking about you, become attracted to you and want to become your girlfriend depending on how you made the girl feel.
You can get a girl emotionally attached to you, in summary, by
1. Giving her space.
2. Encouraging her to chase you.
3. Reward a girl whenever she chases you.
4. Never chasing the girl.
5. Engaging in emotionally relevant conversations with the girl.
6. Having good sex.
7. Making her laugh.
8. Never try to impress the girl.
I hope this article has helped you learn how to effectively get a girl into a relationship.